“I meant to do it, I just forgot. But I DID THINK ABOUT IT!”
Ah, the cognitive dissonance of what we MEANT to do versus what we actually did… really messes with your self-worth and the frustration of every day life…
In my experience, we (the MEN) are the F*CKING WORST at this…
We will “mean to” do things around the house, articulate that we WILL do them… and then forget.
We will “mean to” plan that date night, articulate that we will… and then something comes up.
We will have every intention of quitting…
Making empty promises…
“This time. I just want to make you HAPPY. This time is different. This time I’m changing.”
No, you’re not. And that dissonance is what’s killing everything.
In every area.
You can’t keep saying sh*t with good intentions that you have no plan of following through with.
You’re instantly back at summer camp, lifting your arms in the altar call, committing it all, breaking your rap cd’s over a campfire…and then two weeks later, back at home, you’ve got that “devil music” in your ears, making out with chicks behind Walmart, and rededicating your rededication every other month…
So long as you keep making well-intentioned promises with no plan of action, accountability, or self-actualized ownership of the root cause of your bullsh*t…
You will keep writing checks that you have no way of cashing.
She will leave
The business will fail
The kids will stop asking you for time
The vices will take over
You will receive everything your intentions wanted to avoid, but your actions created in reality…
Every day, I walk alongside successful men and women who’ve unintentionally sacrificed everything they said they wanted on the altar of everything they said they didn’t.
But it DOESN’T HAVE TO BE THIS WAY…
Genuinely, it doesn’t.
But it’s going to require ownership.
You don’t need more information.
You need new outcomes.
Cheers to the path you want and deserve.
You’re not too far gone.
I’m proof of that.
Previously published on Facebook.
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