To tell you the truth, I don’t know a whole lot about erections.
Mostly because I’ve never had one. But I get a LOT of questions about them. And I’m really behind on all my reader questions, so I thought today I’d invite my husband Keith onto the podcast, because he’s a guy. And he’s a doctor (although he’d want me to add that he’s a pediatrician, so it’s not like he sees cases of erectile dysfunction!).
So today on the podcast, it’s all erections, all the time.
We tackled five reader questions about erections.
I threw Keith an easy pitch to start with, because the first question actually was a pediatric one–what do you do if your 4-year-old touches himself?
Then we had two questions about men who get erections frequently (how do you know what’s TOO frequent?), and two questions from women whose husbands either can’t keep an erection or who have delayed ejaculation.
That was a LOT to deal with.
Some of the posts that we mentioned in the podcast, if you’d like to read more:
And here are some helpful tools we mentioned in the podcast for dealing with porn, or with helping prevent porn use in your kids/teens:
Two big takeaways from this podcast on erections
Two of the things Keith and I really want people to remember:
1. An erection is a physical reaction. That means that if it’s not working, you need to make sure there’s not a physical cause.
Now, porn is heavily implicated in many cases of erectile dysfunction, so perhaps, in your marriage, it could be just that. But for many men, a cause is not as obvious. If something is starting to go wrong, or especially if there’s been a big change in sexual performance, it’s likely a good idea to talk to a doctor. Sexual dysfunction can be an early warning sign of something else, and that shouldn’t be ignored. But there are also many things that are highly treatable. Don’t be afraid to seek out help!
2. Everything is easier to deal with if you keep talking and laughing together
Things can go wrong with sex.
No, scratch that.
In any marriage, things WILL go wrong with sex at some point. Maybe sex doesn’t feel that great. Maybe you want to spice things up more. Maybe sexual dysfunction comes into play.
All of these things are easier to deal with if you’re regularly talking, spending time together, and laughing together. That keeps the tension level down so that it’s easier to talk about some of these more sensitive topics.
So keep talking! Keep your friendship alive. And if you’re having trouble talking about the sexual aspect of your relationship, try the 31 Days to Great Sex, which helps you have those conversations. It’s only $4.99 in ebook form!
Need an easier way to have these conversations?
Some miscellaneous tidbits:
That’s it for today! Congratulations to our two winners for 31 Days to Great Sex and our Sexy Dares. I give away prizes each podcast to someone new who signs up for my emails, and if you’re not on our list, join me!
Another bonus: When you’re on my emails, I’ll send you notifications if I’m ever going to speak near you. Last weekend I spoke in Utah (more on that soon, likely tomorrow), and a couple came up all the way from southern California to hear me because they got my email announcing I’d be near. So sign up!
And thank you to Dan of the Get Your Marriage On app who put the conference together. I had such a fun time meeting him and Emily, and I love his passion for turning marriage advice into something highly practical in an app.
Finally, if you’re a woman, have you filled out my sex & marriage survey yet? I really need you! We crossed 12,000 yesterday, and I’d love to get to 20,000 by Christmas. Can you help?
Now, what do you think? Have any questions about erections? Any comments? Let’s talk!