Old Gays Look Back at Their Younger Selves


Do you mind if I ask you how old you are? I’m 74, I’m 65
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75 I’m 62. Do you ever look back at photographs of yourself? Yes. Yes, not really
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I’m gonna show you pictures of your younger selves and get your response to them
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Okay. Okay. Let’s go for it. Oh
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That’s cute
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these men are so cute
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i love them
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Where my head was bigger than the rest of me. And what’s happening in the picture. I was two how do I remember?
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So that’s our little sailor. Uh-huh. I’m either three or four years old. Did your mother take you to a professional photographer?
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Yeah. back then, when there weren’t as many cameras around.
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and he still has hair
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I think that can be said for all of us. Were you always bald? Was I? I don’t know that first picture of you was
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that must be
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sweet little old
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innocent thing
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You’re squiting. Waiting. You had to use the restroom. I didn’t like having pictures taken at me when I was little this was
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1945 right after World War Two what a time to be alive
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It was then not during the war. And you were a towhead?
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Yeah, what’s the towhead? a blonde almost platinum Nordic looking? Were you a large child?
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No, never chunky there was baby fat in the early years, but that wore off pretty fast. Is that you Mick?
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No, it’s not me. Okay. I’m just grinning. It’s me in Palm Springs in
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1954 that’s the road out there. There’s no gate or anything else. The cars just pulled up. What and no wall?
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No protection from the street at all. And did you end up diving or is it just for show? just for show
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He wasn’t gonna mess that hair up. No. Oh
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Handsome. I had hair. Yeah you had some but it was awfully short
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We kept it that way. Your whole life? it was pre afro. What year was that?
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Whenever I was 16 count back 53 plus 16 what years that? 43 plus 16 would be… 53!
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oh, that’s you
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Look at that jawbone, you had hair too – that was my senior prom
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Probably the last time in my life, there was a girl standing to my left. Did you know that you were gay at that time?
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Oh Yeah, I had had my first gay experience about four or five years before that when I was around 12
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That’s another one. You look so football-ish. Yeah, you look like a real jock. Do I? I was pretty queer
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I did go out to football for one
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Practice and I got tackled. The next day I joined the band
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Much safer
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Ohhh, we know who that is
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What is that you? yes, I was 20. I’ve lived on the oceanfront with a man who was 25 years older than myself
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This was a Polaroid he did for an oil portrait he was painting of me. I bet you had a good time?
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Yep, but if I knew then what I knew now
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Nobody would be safe. Oh
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That’s Bill again. Of course, it is. Look at that jacket, babe you working it!
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No! how old were you? I was 21. You look older there. You look like a used car salesman
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Yeah, well I was in the men’s clothing business at the time. Is that one of your clothing attires you sold?
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Yes, well, I remember when plaid was big. Oh, I had it too. Everyone had Indian madras shirts. It was the thing. Wow
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That’s Mr. Mick. You could have stood in for James Dean. This was my first photo shoot taken in
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1981 so I would be 25 ha ha
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Now, he’s really smiling. At that time they were going for the blonde blue-eyed
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That’s why I didn’t make it. I came out here to be a movie star which didn’t happen
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We’ll see little late no, I it’s not late until you dead! that’s it now you look very athletic
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There I was I played baseball and ran track. Did you dance acrobatic type dancing?
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Not then no I was a good church boy and oh, we didn’t do that. Oh, oh I can still do that look. You can?
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with the hair if I go and purchase some
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Oh my God! Jiminy Christmas
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That’s what I expect. That’s Mr. Man. Don’t tell me that was the same year
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No, this was taken in 1991. So I would have been 35. I has abs then. six pack? I had a six pack
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I wanted one of those? Oh
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I guess you don’t have swim trunks on do you? the photographer did a beautiful job?
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He had a good eye because he just caught everything except one thing
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Yes, you had to ask? Wasn’t the first time
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In show business, it means getting your kit off
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No. It’s not me anymore. It’s that photo of a person at that time
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Ah that’s Bob! Bad hair day?
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You said you never did drag before? Well, I’m this is a clown. You look so innocent there. I know
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I was! Ahh!
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The lady rains forty years old. I love being a blonde those spaghetti straps
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Just hanging down and that cleavage. Just you know. Painted in?!
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You paint it to make it look deeper Oh
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RuPaul, where are you when we need you. Did other people beat you you look beat for the gods. That’s for sure
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You notice how we’re picking up the gay jargon?
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It’s fun looking back and seeing from where we have come and how we have grown and how we’ve changed
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Over the years. Yeah
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Physically, the four of us have taken different paths and now we’re here.
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Lucky to still be here to look at them. Amen. Almost
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Everybody in the pictures I was looking at are dead now and I’m the only one who’s alive
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I mean when I was growing up, I thought I’d be dead by 40 and now it’s 74
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I’m just I’m amazed. Do you have any advice off for younger gays?
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Live, enjoy life, don’t take it for granted, but laugh. Keep the laughter because it makes you young
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Keep yourself around younger people because we’re learning from each other. and don’t take yourself too seriously
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Relax, have a good time. Smile life’s fun
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The younger people will get very disturbed about some little something that’ll go wrong
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But in the perspective of your life, it’s such a little speck
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It doesn’t have that much meaning so get over it. Move on
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Thank you for sharing with me today my brothers, thank you. You’re welcome. It’s been fun. Good
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