How to Stop Children’s Bad Behavior | Dad University


While it may seem difficult to understand why a child is misbehaving, the reality is that there are typically only a handful of reasons why children have bad behavior.

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in this video we cover the major reasons
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why children misbehave once you
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understand what’s going on with them
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it’s much easier to solve it hello I am
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Jason Kreitman and this is dad
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University today we’re talking about why
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children misbehave there’s actually only
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a couple of reasons why children
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misbehave so let’s get to it the most
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important thing to remember as a dad is
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not to take it personally these kids
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aren’t out to get you they’re just
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trying to be able to manage themselves
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in this big world so the first reason
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kids miss fade they’re tired this one’s
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an easy solution you make sure that
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they’re getting plenty of rest and if
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you’re in a situation where you can tell
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they’re misbehaving because they’re
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tired make sure they go to sleep that
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one’s an easy one another reason kids
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act up is to assert their independence
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they want to push the boundaries to try
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to have a little control so the answer
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for this one giving choices say hey hey
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instead of telling them what to do
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give them option a and option B they
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still get to make the choice and they
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feel like they’re in control here’s
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another one they don’t understand the
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rules it might be common sense to you
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and me but to a four or five year old
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common sense doesn’t come into play you
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might have to post the rules if it’s
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something let’s say in the house or you
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have to explain the rules of where you
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are or what you’re doing so that they
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understand it you might have to do it
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multiple times as well they could just
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be bored but you’re gonna have to take
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some responsibility on this one if
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you’ve been their source of
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entertainment maybe instead of making up
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the entertainment for them or being
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their entertainment ask them some
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questions hey what do you like to do
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what’s something that you could go do
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outside that would get them thinking so
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that they can entertain themselves
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here’s a big one your expectations are
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too high so while you think that the
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child is misbehaving it’s actually
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normal child
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behavior and you have too high of
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expectations if you are in a restaurant
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and you have a two or three year old
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who’s acting up and not sitting there
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quietly you might have to change your
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expectations if you have a four year old
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who’s whining and in a situation where
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they’re complaining pretty normal child
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behavior for a four-year-old so go ahead
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and look at your expectations and put
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those in check so here’s another they
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saw the behavior somewhere else and are
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simply mimicking that behavior now that
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could be their friends or it could even
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be you so you might have to look at what
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that behavior is and notice hey is it a
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friend of theirs that they’re getting
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that from or somebody at school or is it
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actually some way that you’ve behaved
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and they’re simply mimicking you so the
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thing that you’re gonna want to do is
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explain to them what the correct
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behavior is not necessarily focusing on
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the poor behavior or the negative
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behavior but focus on the positive
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behavior what is it that you want to see
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and tell them that next they don’t know
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how to control their emotions now it’s
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up to us to teach them how to calm
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themselves or deal with their emotions
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appropriately we don’t want to tell them
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that they can’t have emotions we just
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want to tell them how to deal with them
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correctly and that’s we have another
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video on emotional intelligence which
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touches on that so here’s a common one
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they’re hungry I know this one seems
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very simple but when you are hungry it’s
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easy to get irritable or upset and
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children misbehave we as adults call it
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maybe being hangry you’re gonna want to
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make sure that your kids are eating on a
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regular time schedule and if you go
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anywhere be sure to have snacks you’re
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not gonna want to be in a situation
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where your child is hungry misbehaving
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and that’s something you could have
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easily avoided and finally they
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misbehave sometimes just to get
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attention but here’s the key do not give
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them the attention when they are
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misbehaving in order to get it it’s very
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very important that you don’t do that
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we have another video on a tension that
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you’ll probably want to check out it’s
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really important to give them positive
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attention
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versus negative attention so that’s it
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