Couples Discuss Toxic vs Healthy Relationships


Host and comedian Rose Surnow asked people how they define a healthy relationship. Were their own parents in a healthy relationship? Watch to find out!

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– Did you guys grow up with parents
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who were in a relationship that you thought was healthy?
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– No. – No, not at all.
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– No.
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– Hi, I’m Rose Surnow and this is Inside Intimacy,
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the only show that gets to the heart
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of life’s big questions.
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That’s probably not true,
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but this is the one that stars me.
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Today’s question is: Healthy relationships.
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Are they real?
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Do they exist?
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Can you even ever be in one?
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Has anyone ever been in one?
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I hope so.
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Let’s find out.
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Did your parents, growing up, have a healthy relationship?
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– In totally honesty,
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my dad cheated every second he got and my mom did this.
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– All throughout growing up?
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– All throughout growing up.
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– I think that’s really interesting
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’cause it’s like if you grew up
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and you see your parents have a really great marriage,
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then it would seem to me that it would be easier to go off
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and have a really great relationship yourself,
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but 50% of the population grew up with divorced parents,
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myself included, and if you don’t see it,
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then how do you just know how to do it?
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– You don’t know.
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You have to actually retrain yourself
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to know what healthy is, to know what good is,
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to know what you deserve.
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– A lot of times,
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it gets down to what you want for yourself
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and having respect for yourself
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and knowing that you deserve
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to be loved by someone unconditionally,
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you deserve to fuck up big time and be forgiven,
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but then also, forgive someone else.
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– Before you found Michael,
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how did you say, okay, I’ve been in some shitty things.
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How did you switch it up
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so that you were attracted to better, nicer guys?
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– I’m a Christian.
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I believe in God.
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I think I spend a lot of time in the spirit,
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I spend a lot of time looking within
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and praying to God for what He wants for my future
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and what He sees for my life.
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– Did you ever find yourself
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before you did the healing in a relationship
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where you’re like, “Uh-oh.”
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– Ex-husband, he had pictures of naked women in his drawers.
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You know, things like that.
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What am I doing?
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I’m better than that.
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– What are the pillars of a healthy relationship,
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things that you need to have.
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– Communication.
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You need to, I think like each other.
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– That seems important.
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– Humor is another really big one.
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– Youthfulness.
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– Keeping the youthfulness?
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You’re 31.
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– You know, relationships, they’re like plants.
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They gotta grow, so keeping it alive, that’s important.
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– Loving, caring, and giving.
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– Honesty and respect.
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– You know, you gotta have fun
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and you can’t take yourself too seriously.
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– I think the top three are communication, space,
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and team building activities.
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– I think the fact that space is in your top three.
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– You should do your own thing.
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You should go chill with your girls.
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I should go chill with my guys.
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– Okay, we’re gonna play a really fun, little game
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called Are You Actually in a Healthy Relationship.
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Okay, so I’m gonna ask you guys a question
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and then I’m gonna say, “one, two, three,”
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and you’re gonna lift up your paddles
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and you’re not gonna look at what
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the other person does, okay. – Okay.
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Who’s more high maintenance?
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One, two, three.
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Oh, you both think each other.
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Who initiates sex more?
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One, two, three.
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No sex?
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Not yet?
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Married?
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Once you get married.
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– Yeah. – Hurry up and get married.
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– I know.
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– Who starts the fights?
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One, two, three.
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Mighty Might, explain.
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– I’m Italian.
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I’m a Scorpio.
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– Say no more. – Say no more, right there.
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– Okay, who’s funnier?
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One, two, three.
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Oh, you’re the funny one, huh?
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– I’m funny.
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I’m goofy, yeah.
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– I really like that Jay knows that you’re funny
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and he’s not fighting it.
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– Yeah, you got it.
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– Who’s more needy?
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One, two, three.
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How is she needy?
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– It’s like not controlling.
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It’s just sometimes you know what you want
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so you go for it.
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– She’s controlling.
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– Okay, yeah.
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– Who’s more romantic?
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One, two, three.
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Oh, you both think that you’re each more romantic.
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Are you romantic, Annie?
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– No.
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– You’re not?
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– No.
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– So you’re equally not romantic.
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– [Together] Yes.
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– You hold her hand all the time when you walk?
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– We do.
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– That’s really cute.
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Do you love that?
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– I love that.
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– Okay, who initiates sex more?
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One, two, three.
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Okay, so Tara.
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Tell me about that.
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– She’s hot.
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– That’s the right answer.
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Do you guys think you’re gonna get married?
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– I hope so.
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– Yeah, I hope so too.
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– Eventually, sure, somewhere down the line,
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but I don’t need, it’s not no rush,
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I don’t have to.
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– Do you want to propose to her on camera right now?
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– I mean, sure.
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Hey, you wanna get married?
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– I mean, yeah, but.
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– There we go.
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– You guys are cute.
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– Hopefully one day.
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– Where are you at with that?
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– Yeah, I wanna get married.
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– You’re not gonna catch me.
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– I totally tried to catch you.
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You fucked me up.
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– I’m definitely trying to go there
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in terms of my relationship.
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– Aww, do you love him?
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– I do love him.
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– Guys, I love you as a couple.
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– Thank you.
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– Let’s wait for this motorcycle to pass.
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Oh, congratulations.
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You’re riding a motorcycle.
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I’m so impressed.
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So loud.
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So manly.
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