Cuddling each other in bed and slowly drifting into a good night’s sleep in the arms of the lover – isn’t that what we all hope for at the end of a tiring day?
Being able to sleep next to your partner, knowing you are secure and happy, is perhaps one of the most peaceful feelings you will experience. But did you know that how you sleep with your partner is said to reflect something about your relationship?
According to a study by Richard Wiseman, a psychologist at Hertfordshire University, UK, ‘sleeping positions of a couple reflect the quality of a relationship.’ That means how you sleep with your partner might tell you how your bond is (1).
Read this MomJunction post to know about the common couple sleeping positions and if they can determine the state of a relationship.
Couple Sleeping Positions
While it is sometimes possible to determine how close a couple is based on how they sleep, the interpretations may not be accurate for all. Read next about the different ways couples sleep but take the analysis with a pinch of salt and avoid judging your partner or your relationship based on it.
The spoon is a common sleeping position and is considered as a traditional one. There are three ways a couple can spoon.
- The standard spoon, which is a comfortable and protective posture, signifies that one of you has the other’s back. This position is more common in the initial stages of a relationship.
- Second is the loose spoon position. It is similar to a spoon with a small gap in between. Couples usually adopt this position after a few years of being in a relationship. It doesn’t mean that love is lost but that they are giving space to each other for comfort.
- The third is the chasing spoon position, which is similar to the normal spoon. However, the difference is that one partner is on the edge of the bed, and the other partner seems to be chasing to form a spoon. This could mean anything: the partner moving away could be just casual or might want some attention or needs little space.
In this sleeping position, one partner sleeps with their head on the other’s chest and their legs tangled. It is believed that couples sleeping in this position are mature and trusting. The person sleeping on the back and holding the partner seems to be protective of the other, while the person resting the head appears to be affectionate and appreciative of their partner. This is a romantic position and is also called sweetheart’s cradle.
This is one of the most intimate sleeping positions for a couple. In this position, the couple coils their arms and legs around each other, indicating they don’t want to get separated. Partners sleeping in this position are known to have intense emotions to share. Also, the position shows that the couple is highly dependent on one another. However, the indications might differ from one couple to another.
4. Cherish or back kissers
Sleeping in the cherish position means the couple is sleeping with the backs together, and not facing one another. It shows a relaxed and agreeable sleeping posture. The position is believed to indicate that the partners are mature enough to value each other’s space and are confident about the relationship too.
5. Superhero or space hog
It is one of the uncommon sleeping positions for the couple. Also called as the starfish or space-hog position, superhero sleeping posture has one partner taking over the bed while the other staying somewhere on the side or struggling to fit in. If the other person is comfortable with the partner’s dominating posture, it could mean he or she is adjustable. Also, it could mean that the partner taking the entire space is selfish or not considerate of the other partner’s needs.
6. Unraveling knot
This couple sleeping position could signify a strong bond between the two. There are two parts of the unraveling knot. The bedtime starts with a tangle position, but after a few minutes, the partners move away and sleep, giving space to each other. Couples sleeping in this position are believed to have a good balance between togetherness and freedom in the relationship.
6. Leg hug
While sleeping in this position, the partners intertwine their legs or just place their foot on one other. This position shows that they value and care for each other. It is said to show that they give each other space but are always connected.
Sometimes, when the couple is not on talking terms, but one wants some attention, he or she places a foot on the partner’s. The interpretation of this posture could vary from one couple to another.
7. Liberty lovers
This is a position in which partners sleep back-to-back but are not touching each other. It might seem that they are not on good terms. But this sleeping position indicates a healthy relationship. It means you have a balanced bond, you are connected, but there is independence too. However, it is just a theory, and may or may not be true for all.
8. Pillow talk
In this sleeping position, the partners sleep face-to-face but are not touching each other. It might mean that they have a good association and both are always there for each other when in need. It may also mean that you want to talk before dozing off, signifying that your closeness is beyond touching each other. The position could indicate a mature, loving relationship.
9. Sleep on the edge
When the partners are sleeping in one corner each, without facing each other or talking or touching each other, it is called sleeping on the edge. It is not the same as the liberty lovers position as there is more gap between the two, which could be an indication that there is some disagreement between the partners. But that may not always be the case.
10. Paper dolls
Some couples want to hold each other and at the same time want their own space when sleeping. The paper dolls position is one in which both partners are on their backs but are holding their hands or just touching the tips of their fingers. This position might indicate that there is a connection, freedom, and breathing space.
In this sleeping position, one partner rests head on the other’s shoulder. It is believed that couples sleeping in this position are understanding and they share mutual trust. Some theories also state that couples sleeping in shingles position take care of each other’s needs.
Sleeping positions do express something about one’s personality or relationship, but that might not always be right. When the partners are happy to sleep any way and don’t mind each other’s sleeping patterns, the mutual agreement can be good for the relationship. Sleeping apart might not mean that you are at distant just as physical proximity doesn’t imply an emotional connect.
The bottom line is to ensure that both of you have a good night’s sleep and see that one partner is not being disturbed by the other.
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