It seems as though today’s society can’t wait for a girl to be married. As soon as a woman enters her twenties, society begins putting pressure on her and her family to tie the knot and seal the deal. While it’s great that society is keen on seeing her settled, happy, and in love, it could honestly get stressful and tiring. When a woman does get married, then her expectations also increase. Along with this, women are also expected to make drastic lifestyle changes. It’s essential that when a girl gets married, she maintains her own identity. This will be better for her in the long run and will help preserve her own identity.
Here are a few things a girl should keep in mind when she gets married.
Don’t Quit Your Job
Before you decide to quit your job once you get married, think about how hard you worked to earn it. Your parents never spent all that money, and you never spent all that time to quit a job you love as soon as you tie the knot. While it would be great for you to take some time off and spend quality time with your significant other, quitting a job seems like a bad idea unless it is necessary.
Remain Financially Independent
While it’s important that you and your spouse pool your resources to work on building a secure future, don’t become financially dependent on the person. It’s always great to have your savings to bank upon even when you’re married. Retain your savings account, and don’t forget to keep filling it up.
Don’t Ignore Your Friends
While it’s normal for your priorities to change now that you’re married, don’t give up on your girl gang entirely. Even if you can’t meet them as often and spend time with them, let them know they still matter to you. Take time off every other week to meet them and spend some time with them.
Don’t Forget Your Own Family
While it’s great that you have now acquired a second family, it’s important not to forget your own family – the people who raised you. Your parents are still your responsibility and you should always look out for their needs. If you have moved out of the house, then go back now and then and spend some time with them. You will feel refreshed, and your family will feel loved too.
Don’t Try And Change Others
When you move in with your husband and his family, there might be a lot of things you don’t find appealing about them. Your husband leaving the toilet seat up or not closing the toothpaste may be something that gets on your nerves. You can request him to change such habits. But it’s also important to remember that just how you want to be accepted and not required to change so does your husband.
Don’t Agree To Change Your Identity Unless You Want To
In today’s day and age, it’s quite common for girls to opt to keep their surnames. For starters, it’s a lot more convenient to do so. You don’t have to go through the process of changing your signature and bank account details. Apart from that, it’s also a personal choice if you choose to retain your identity. If you decide to change your surname, then that’s fine too. But make sure you’re the one making that choice. Don’t let anyone force you into doing something you’re not comfortable with.
Maintaining your own identity is extremely important in a marriage and can help keep the marriage healthy. It can help make the transition from being single to being married a lot easier as well.